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The Golden Ass

We have stopped sharing the days of our lives and Facebook is worried. Once upon a social media time we thought we lived in a fairy tale of relevance. Our ego, charging in like a false protagonist, told us to suspend our disbelief and believe instead that the trivial aspects of our lives deserved an audience. After … Continue reading The Golden Ass

Selectively social

Deep conversations with the right people are priceless! I am a social introvert. This means (among other things) small talk bores me. I struggle with people who stick to the basics; chatting about their children, or asking me about mine. Or the quintessential (I can't believe I'm even including such a cliche), opener - the … Continue reading Selectively social

Do not listen with the intent to reply but with the intent to understand

What is the single most important tool we require to listen well? The answer is simple: Stop thinking about what we’re going to say next and focus on what the other person is saying right at the very moment they say it. This is called "active listening." Active listening is reasonably easy to do; we … Continue reading Do not listen with the intent to reply but with the intent to understand

Ego is such a dirty word but does it need polishing

When we meet someone new who may assist us to build our careers or connect with us on a personal level we want that person to like us. We don't want to do or say anything that may jeopardise this burgeoning relationship. We don't judge; we listen, ask questions, and validate the other person's opinions. … Continue reading Ego is such a dirty word but does it need polishing

Get more Likes with honey

In today's world of selfie reflection we often get carried away with our online presence; seeing ourselves as important critics, often judging other people's opinions harshly because they cannot see us, and then, when our posts are "Liked" by others, we feel validated. But what if online people could see us? What if our judgements … Continue reading Get more Likes with honey